An 8-step practice for releasing what triggers you — old wounds, hard memories, people who hurt you — so they stop having power over your peace. Where "just let it go" falls flat, this gives you an actual path: feel it, name it, release it.
The Reset Process gives you a structured way to actually deal with them — not stuff them down, not pretend they didn't happen, but feel them fully, find something real in them, and let them go. This framework is adapted from the Reset Process popularized by biohacker Dave Asprey in his book Heavily Meditated.
Find a quiet, private space where you won't be interrupted. Phone down, distractions off, so you can be fully present with yourself.
Bring to mind someone whose presence, wisdom, or judgment you trust completely — a mentor, a version of your wisest self, or whoever you lean on. Invite that presence to walk through this with you.
Bring to mind a specific person or event that still has a charge on you. Be honest. Don't pick something vague — pick the real one.
Put words to it. What happened, specifically? What does it stir up — anger, shame, fear, grief? Naming it takes away some of its power to control you from the shadows.
Don't rush past the emotion or numb it. Sit with it in your body and let yourself feel it completely. This isn't reliving the wound — it's finally letting it move through you instead of staying buried.
Even in the hardest moments, look for what good came out of it — strength you gained, a lesson learned, a way it shaped who you are now. Find something genuine to be grateful for, even here.
Choose to forgive — the person, the event, and even yourself if needed. Forgiveness isn't saying it was okay. It's releasing your grip on it so it no longer has a hold on you.
Return to how you feel now compared to when you started. Notice the shift, give it a moment to settle, and carry that peace forward with you.